Comfort Words

As I watch my 2 youngest children finally drifting off to sleep ~ in the midst of a case of the flu ~ I find comfort in their comfort.  Yes, as parents, we find comfort when our children are happy.  And, our hearts break when we see their hearts crack just a little.  We probably feel more pain than they do.

It is this that reminds how “good” comfortable may feel.  That is why we stay there.  Could I sit on the couch all day ~ next to my wife and holding our 8-month old?  Sure.  Feeling his warm head resting on my arm, hearing his quick breaths, watching his chest move up and down.  There is something spectacular in this.

Yet, staying in that comfortable position all day, what would it bring me? Yes, I get to spend some quality time with my family.  But, then what?

We all need comfort every once in a while ~ that why there is that food out there called “comfort food.”  Yeah, you know what it is for you and when you choose to eat it.

When we are out with a group of people, let’s say a networking event, and someone approaches you, begins a conversation, and then asks you the big question, “Are you interested in hearing more about XYZ product?”

What goes through you head?  What excuse can you use this time, right?  What if it is something you really want, but just too scared to ask for it? You may be using your “comfort words.”

It’s not the right time.

I don’t have enough time.

I have to talk to my spouse.

Let me think about and I’ll get back with you.

Yes, I believe we have been guilty of this.  Not sharing what is on our minds ~ being honest with those around us as well as ourselves.

How about those comfort words we tell ourselves.  It’s okay I didn’t exercise today, I’ll do double tomorrow.  It’s okay for me to eat that second piece of cake, I ran an extra mile today.  I know I should let _____ treat me like that, but it’s probably my fault anyway.

No of these words are serving you.  They do nothing to allow good change happen in your life ~ like your GOALS!  They are just comforting the inner child in us.

So what can you do to change these comfort words ~ get out of your comfort zone.  First, be aware of the self talk and words you are using that are not serving you ~ those words that are keeping you from achieving your goals.

Second, when you become aware of using them, stop what you are doing; make a mental note.  Put those words in a bubble.  See that bubble.

And, blow it away.

NOW, use words that will serve you. 

• I must achieve my goal ~ so I will make one more phone call.

• I will get up now so I can exercise.

• I will eat an apple instead of cake.

• I am following up with ______________ who I met a networking event.

• I am a person worth loving and deserve a person who will love me for who I am and everything I bring to this world.

Wow, what a difference.  I feel better already!  How about you?

Live your life with Absolute Certainty,

Keith
The Mentor to Millions